I met one of my best friends in elementary school, but we didn’t become closer until the end of high school. I would have to say that the relationship was an I-You relationship, I knew of her and would talk to her in passing. At the beginning of the relationship, we mostly talked about our classes, teachers, and what happened at school. We shared classes together, so I knew we could connect on jokes or oddities happening in class. As we talked more, we could relate to other experiences outside the classroom, such as movies, music, family, etc. I don’t think there were any topics we avoided, but there is always a time and place for certain topics. I definitely would not talk about personal matters in a public setting.
Now, we are close friends who talk pretty much about anything with one another. We share personal troubles or whatever else we feel like sharing. I do not feel like there is any sort of barrier that makes some topics off-limits. We have an open communication and no one has to be afraid of being judged. We come to each other for second opinions and just listen when someone needs to vent. As I reflect on the relationship, I can certainly see a progression. I think just like any other relationship, you talk about things that you have in common and gradually expand the topics range. It takes a while to feel comfortable bringing up personal topics to talk about because you want to be able to trust the person and also not overwhelm them.
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